What will they say when you're gone? When your great-grandchildren see your name, will they have any idea what kind of person you were? What will they find out if/when they research you?
Will they be proud to be related to you? Will they be embarrassed if people found out?
Do you like who you've become? Do you like who people know?
It's can be a confusing distinction between worrying what others think of you and displaying who you want them to see. That's a hard line to draw .